Wedding Tip from the Pros:  Get ready in a meaningful place

More often than not, we see brides & grooms getting ready in a generic hotel room or places that have no sentimental value to the couple.  Try to select a getting ready location that is unique or special to you like the home you grew up in or a cozy AirBnB cabin near your venue.  Not only will this allow your photographer to be creatively inspired, but it will also start your day off on the right foot, de-stress you and help create even better memories.

(Photo credit for all photos: Forged in the North)

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Mar 27, 2015 by Jamie Chang

As you know, it’s our birthday this month and when I remember the years that have gone by and the many couples I’ve worked with, I can’t help but go back to the first.  I’ll always remember that first wedding I did, not just because it was a new experience, but because it kicked off the official start of my company and quite frankly, the start of a new life.  But, more importantly I got to meet and work with a couple that is fun, different and who I’m still friends with today.  It also taught me an important lesson that I always keep at the back of my mind and the lesson is that the reason I do what I do is so that the couple can fully enjoy themselves and have these kinds of moments of sheer happiness.

(Photo credit: VAS Photography)

Mar 26, 2015 by Jamie Chang

It’s time for our Wedding Wednesdays Q&A and today we’re talking about RSVPs:  I sent out my wedding invitations over a month ago and my RSVP date was 2 weeks ago.  I’m really worried because as of today, I only have responses from about 50% of my guests.  I’ve been calling and emailing them since the RSVP date asking for an answer, but I either haven’t heard back or they say they need more time.  My question is, how much time do I give them?  And is there something I should be doing to make them get back to me?  This is really starting to stress me out.

Getting people to respond to an RSVP can be hard , so I understand your frustration.  Unfortunately, not everyone is considerate and timely when it comes to a response, so it falls to you get one out of them.  And the longer you wait to have all the responses, the longer it will take for you to finish your seating chart.  And of course if final counts are needed for things like the venue or catering, florist or rentals, then you want to have that with enough time to make the adjustments you need to make.  So, let’s get you set up with a plan and de-stressed.

First off, I’d give all the remaining guests a final deadline.  Send them an email or call them and tell them that you need to know either way by a week from now (if you have enough time for that, if you don’t then make it 3-5 days instead of a week).  Also stress to them that if you don’t hear from them, they will be considered a no and will not counted in your totals.  Be respectful and nice about it, but be firm.  If they don’t understand or give you flak about it, just tell them that you need to know in order to finish planning the wedding and that you’d really appreciate it if they would get back to you by the set date.  One thing to note here is that if any of the hold outs are people who you are very close to and who are in a special situation (i.e. family situation, health situation, etc…), you can and should be lenient with them.  You can either include them in the total for now or leave them out of the total with the knowledge that you might have to delete/add them later.

Now, hopefully as you reach out to these guests and give them that firm deadline, you’ll get some responses.  But, for the most part you’ll probably still be waiting.  As you wait for these people to get back to you, you should start working on your seating chart.  Group the people who you know are coming on to tables and then put in the names of the outstanding guests that you think have a high probability of coming.  This may sound counterintuitive since you don’t yet have a final count, but what this does is it allows you to have a draft that you can add to and delete from as you hear back.  So, by the time the deadline hits, you won’t have to work as hard or spend as much time on the seating chart and can immediately move on and work on things like the seating cards/place cards and giving final counts to your vendors.

Do you have a wedding planning question you need help with?  There is no such thing as a dumb question.  We’re here to help, so send it our way!

Mar 25, 2015 by Jamie Chang

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Jamie Chang

Jamie Chang is the owner and lead event consultant at Mango Muse Events. Mango Muse Events is a boutique event planning and design firm specializing in customized destination weddings and social occasions. Mango Muse Events is based in the San Francisco Bay Area and orchestrates events in Northern California, Hawaii and beyond.

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